Your giving & your partner

 

It was around 2014 where my dad's old colleague called him and offered to give my dad a car freely. Meanwhile he was preparing to fetch the car . His colleague called him back to tell him that his wife isn't willing to give away the car as agreed to my dad freely , that his wife suddenly wants money for the car and this puts him in a tight corner as they had both set out to give the car away to him. With no hassle , cash was arranged and the car was collected.  

It is extremely sad to see married couples having to give or offer help to others behind their spouses back when such charity should be done conveniently together especially if time and circumstances allow.  

I look back and I realize the importance of marrying someone sensible enough to understand your level of charity, someone who will not frustrate the giver that you are and someone who is as selfless, kind and generous as your goodness in Christ otherwise conflict is inevitable.  

It will be your fault to marry a possessive,  self-centered and idolatrous partner .  Marrying someone who will violate your conviction to God Almighty is your fault.

Your partner & authority

  

As a teenager, I used to select certain people as correctors in my life . If they spoke , I would listen and act immediately.  I outgrew my circle of counsellors the day I accepted the Holy Spirit and God's Word as my ultimate counsel and Authority to which I am fully accountable to. 

It is through knowledge and wisdom that I came to understand many other ways God Almighty communicates . In most cases, He communicates from humble, undermined and overlooked places and people.  

I am bound to look and to discern God's voice in everything, everyone and in anything.  It is an in-knowing from the Holy Spirit that alerts you of God's voice.  

Now coming to your partner: Who does he/she listen to and obey ? Is he/she able to discern God's voice in his/her leaders, parents, strangers,siblings,fellow brothers and sisters or he/she just without searching the spirits take their counsel as authority from God? 

Stay far away from men and women who don't test spirits,  who aren't willing to discern God's voice in anything or anybody.  Why? These women and men are easily manipulated by their spiritual leaders, they put their trust in men and easily assume that what their spiritual leaders/parents/siblings/colleagues/cousins/ strangers is right and they run forcefully with it.  

It is important for a partner to have discernment otherwise anybody will control your union. Whose /what authority governs your life ?

Life is a worthwhile journey 

If two drivers, one in a Ferrari and other in a Volkswagen Citi Golf set out on a journey to Pretoria without any speed limits on the road . The Ferrari would arrive first but the distance travelled and the destination reached remains the same . It doesn't matter whether you have a starting advantage or not . What matters is that you will travel your life's journey to the end that you envision from this beginning. 

Various life seasons will come , you are going to lose close people, gain new friends , be betrayed , betray , be disappointed , disappoint , be hated , hate , love and be loved above all else. The sole advantage of life I learnt, is life itself . If you have life , you can plan again , try again , love again , repent again and dream again . 

The reason why you start anything must be the same foundation that you must use to fuel your determination and perseverance. Mostly you need to understand that your life story is unique because you are unique. There has never been this version of yourself. You are the "it" with that "thing" . You have got what it takes to live your life to the fullest but not apart from hardships for that too comes with life. Life itself is a balanced risk with the exciting hypes and the discouraging lows.

A Caterpillar is the start of a butterfly which means getting a grip of your ground is essential for success in anything . When your motive for success streams from a place of love rather than from envy, hatred and bitterness, it will be then that your life will truly be a seasoning aroma to the Almighty God and impactful love to your people. 

Your fears are like stop signs . Use them as points of precaution not stagnancy or complanency. Your fears are the drive behind your contingency plan yet they should never be your detour to your comfort zone again . 

The mistakes you have made and will make are part of your making and by the way there aren't new mistakes, just old essential lessons for you and everybody who draws courage from your life. Wisdom has always been old yet them that possess and seek to possess it , light up their paths and build a solid shelter for life. Foolishness has always been young, senseless and too much of it will cause your bones to dry to up, lock you up in the cells of wearisome regrets and derive you of enlightenment. Yet I must warn you that a balance between the two is attained by having reverence for the Almighty God in all that you do. 

Remember that life is about balance . Don't overwork yourself in your purpose nor over-indulge yourself in your pleasures. Why ? You are here on earth for a reason and for a season . Your grave number is already printed so why not make the most of all the given seasons under the sun ?