That "no" and that "unfortunately" will always trigger negative vibes that make you feel unworthy, dumb and incompetent. In a way we have all had our share of rejection but none of the rejections we had truly define us .
Here are my two types of rejection :
1. Manifesto - Rejection that takes place immediately at the time of inquiry or presentation . Your proposal is rejected now , you are rejected now for that job and sometimes you are not given a chance to explain yourself. Manifesto rejection happens when the prospect has a particular qualifying criteria - hidden expectations at times.
It is easy to react sabotageously when manifesto rejection occurs that's why you need to development emotional intelligence. You have every right to ask why didn't you succeed for that interviewed , why did she reject your proposal and why is your attitude towards me that bad ?
2. Latent rejection - rejection that happens after conditional acceptance either by an institution or by another person.
This kind of rejection has a habit of occurring unexpectedly. More like a sudden rejection. Like being dumped by your partner of many years because you are unable to find work . Unpublished conditional acceptance brews latent rejection.
What matters on the aspect of rejection is the lessons you take from it. Your heart will be broken , your spirit will be crushed and you will face the temptation to give up on yourself.
If your value is dictated by who or what accepts you then you haven't come to love yourself unconditionally . Nobody will understand your value like you do. You need to be free from the cage of what other people will think of you to what God says you are .
Watch out for the amount of trust you put in a prospect lover. Don't overdo it ! Hidden expectations are the cause of many hurts. Set out the course before you sing " I love you too " . Give out your "Heart rules "
Actions that lead to rejection :
1. Impulsive agreements - Read the contracts carefully , there is always a trap in smooth talking.
2. Infatuation - You can't sleep to lust and think that you will wake up to love.
3. Under-preparation - Don't despise your opponent .
4. Unrealistic expectations - Avoid expecting a pig that doesn't love mud. Know their level of commitment. If you can work with it , great ! And If you can't, let them go !
5. Over-confidence - Don't be foolish. Pride is contagious, arrogance is a nuisance but humility is a darling.
That opportunity might have been important. Important only if it accepted you otherwise consider it as preparatory. Prepare for another one . Sharpen yourself . Grow from every rejection.
If you are moving in the direction of your dreams not life demands - every rejection will be your cornerstone. Go in to try always .
If you fear rejection either from people or that opportunity - you will forever be mediocre. The hurt of rejection isn't much painful compared to a mediocre life . You will never do anything great and extraordinary while you are making love to your fear of rejection.
That dream woman won't pursue herself, that dream won't fulfill itself and that opportunity won't find itself - you must be willing to see rejection from a growth perspective .
Remember that your steps are ordered by the Lord therefore acknowledge Him in all that you do . Remember not to grugde over people that reject you. They are ushers to the alignment of God's purpose with your life .